PRAY WITH YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE EVERY DAY

Make God the central person in your home

 

Doug Britton, MFT
www.dougbrittonbooks.com

Morning prayer: Pray for each other.

At the beginning of the day, or before either person leaves for work, one person asks the other for prayer requests, and then he or she prays. After the first person finishes praying, the second person asks the first one for prayer requests and then prays. After that, pray as a couple for family members or other people.

If one person is asleep when the other one goes to work, pray for each spouse’s requests the night before. If one person is away on a business trip, pray by phone.

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Early evening prayer: Pray for a servant’s heart.

Most of us feel tired at the end of the day. We enter the evening hours hoping for support and understanding from our spouse. Yet God wants us to look for ways to serve, not to be served. As Jesus said, “Even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve” (Mark 10:45).

To prepare your hearts for the evening, pray with your spouse for a short time as soon as both of you are home after the workday. Take turns praying, with each person praying to be a loving, sensitive and helpful spouse that evening. You could also pray to be free from any tensions or problems from the workplace, and you could pray for help to overcome temptations (such as watching pornography or spending too much time looking at your smartphone or TV).

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Bedtime prayer: Pray for God’s protection.

Before you go to sleep, ask for God’s protection over your home and for each member of your family, your relatives and others with needs. If one person goes to bed before the other, pray when the first person goes to bed.

Related: Making Christ the Cornerstone

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Suggested prayer guidelines

Either husband or wife can suggest it is time to pray.

You could agree that one of you will suggest praying together at the different times of the day, or you could be informal, with each taking the responsibility to say, “Let’s pray.”

Invite your spouse to pray as a couple.

Make it a friendly invitation. Don’t be pushy. Praying with your husband or wife should be voluntary, not forced.

Both husband and wife should pray out loud.

If you are shy about praying out loud with your spouse, fearing you don’t pray well enough, let me encourage you not to feel embarrassed. Prayer is talking to God. (It’s also listening to him.) Speak simply. He is the most understanding and patient of listeners.

Choose a position that is comfortable for both.

You can pray standing, kneeling, sitting, hugging or lying in bed. The main thing is to pray with your wife or husband, however you do it.

Pray for a reasonable amount of time.

There is no need to have prayer marathons. Pray with your spouse for a length of time that is comfortable for both of you. (If your husband or wife only wants to pray for two minutes, that’s a lot better than not praying together at all.)

Consider using a couple’s prayer chart

Place a chart somewhere each of you looks every day to remind yourselves to pray with your spouse. Feel free to print and use this online prayer chart